Checkup · Relationship
Couples · 1-minute checkAre you drifting — or is it actually serious?
~2 in 3 couples lose satisfaction in the first years after a baby. A dip is normal — but is yours the tired-new-parent drift, or genuine unhappiness? This uses the CSI-4, a satisfaction scale researchers use. Four questions, private.
What this measures
This is the Couples Satisfaction Index (CSI-4) — a short, research-validated measure of how satisfied you feel in your relationship (Funk & Rogge, 2007). It scores 0–21; below 13.5 signals notable dissatisfaction, not just a rough week. It's a snapshot of your view, not a verdict on the relationship — and it's one of the most reliable brief measures out there.
Why it dips after a baby — and what helps
The first year redirects almost everything toward the baby: sleep, time, attention, touch. Most couples drift into "roommates" for a while — that's the normal version. It usually turns around with small, repeated reconnection, not one big talk. If the score is low and stays low, or there's contempt, stonewalling, or you feel alone in it, a couples therapist is worth it — and that's a strength move, not a failure.
Uses the CSI-4 (Funk & Rogge, 2007), a validated relationship-satisfaction measure, free for non-commercial use. This is a self-reflection, not a diagnosis or couples-therapy. Your answers are scored on your device and never sent anywhere.
Regular is built by a small team of parents who needed it themselves — a companion for the first year after a baby that helps new dads rebuild closeness with their partner through small, science-backed moments, not big talks. Our mission: make the post-baby year less lonely, for both of you. More about us.