Why we built it
The transition to parenthood is the single most-studied stressor in relationship science, and roughly two in three couples feel a sharp drop in satisfaction after the first baby. Yet almost none of the support out there is written for the father's experience — the distance, the lost intimacy, the feeling of being a roommate or a third wheel in your own home.
Most advice tells men to "just communicate more." That isn't a plan. We built Regular to give dads something concrete instead: one small, doable move tonight — informed by your shared context and decades of relationship research — that helps you reconnect with your partner rather than drift.
What Regular does
- Reads the whole picture. With permission from both partners, Regular weighs your shared context and gives guidance that fits your actual situation — not generic tips.
- Hands you one step. Instead of a feed of theory, it suggests a single small action that fits a no-sleep reality.
- Points you toward your partner. Unlike companion chatbots that can replace human connection, Regular is designed to send you back to her.
- Stays private and shame-free. Your data informs the nudge, but it's never dumped on your partner, and you choose what's shared.
The science it stands on
Regular's guidance is grounded in established relationship science — John Gottman's research on what keeps couples together, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), and attachment research. Our blog explains the studies behind it in plain English, with links to the original papers. It's support, not a substitute for therapy or medical care.
The team
Regular is built by a team from Microsoft, Meta, Yandex, Flo and Canva — and, not by coincidence, married parents who have lived the post-baby dip themselves.
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IYIvan Yamshchikov
Prof. Dr. in AI, institute director at THWS Würzburg & co-founder of Pleias. Ex-Toloka.ai, ABBYY & Yandex.
Married 5+ years · 1 kid LinkedIn ↗
VNVadim Nikulin
Ex-Microsoft, Meta, Flo & Yandex.
Married 20+ years · 3 kids LinkedIn ↗
DCQuestions, press, or partnership enquiries are always welcome at elisa@regular.care.
Who it's for
New fathers in the first one to three years after a baby who are worried about their relationship — less or no sex, feeling like roommates, sidelined, rejected, or lonely — and want practical, judgment-free help that isn't couples therapy and isn't a lecture.
Get Regular on iOSFree on iPhone. Android is in development.