Checkup · Burnout
Burnout · 2-minute checkAm I burnt out — or just tired?
Everyone keeps telling you you're "just tired." But there's a line between exhaustion and burnout — and most dads cross it without noticing. This 2-minute check (built on the Copenhagen Burnout Inventory) tells you which side you're on, which kind of dad you've become, and what actually helps.
Can dads actually burn out?
Yes — and it's not the same as being tired. Burnout is what happens when the load outruns your recovery for long enough that the tank stops refilling: you wake up empty, you go flat, you start running on autopilot. In fathers it often hides as irritability, withdrawal, or just "I'm fine, I'm only tired" — which is exactly why it gets missed. This check is built on the Copenhagen Burnout Inventory (Kristensen et al., 2005), a validated, public-domain measure, reworded for the reality of the first years as a dad.
What helps
Burnout lifts with real recovery, not willpower: protected sleep and time off-duty, sharing the load out loud instead of silently absorbing it, and lowering the bar from "perfect parent" to "good-enough." If your score is high — or it's bleeding into your mood — talk to a professional, and check your mental health too, since burnout and depression travel together. A lot of the weight also sits between you and your partner; that's where Regular helps, one small move at a time.
FAQ
How is this different from a normal tiredness test?
The questions are about the specifics of new fatherhood — broken nights, the work-plus-home double shift, the "I have to hold it together" pressure — not generic workplace burnout.
Is this a diagnosis?
No. It's a self-check based on a validated instrument (CBI). If your score is high or symptoms persist, talk to a doctor or therapist.
Is there a burnout test made for new dads?
This is it. Regular builds checks adapted to the experience of fatherhood, which almost nobody else does.
Are my answers private?
Completely. Everything is scored in your browser; nothing is sent anywhere or seen by us.
Regular is built by a small team of parents who needed it themselves — a companion for the first year after a baby that helps new dads rebuild closeness with their partner through small, science-backed moments, not big talks. Our mission: make the post-baby year less lonely, for both of you. More about us.